Saturday, December 04, 2004

One Proud Mama

My daughter played her first varisty bball game last night. What makes this especially exciting is that she is the only freshman on the varsity team and not only did she suit up, but she played in all four quarters.

Ellen's ability to be disciplined, along with a great couple of coaches (her dad and g'dad) , she is working towards her goal of going to Duke University along with playing National Ball.

My daughter has never lived in a world where there was no WNBA. She lives in a world where the Supreme Court has always had a woman. She lives in a world where her mother's friends are doctors, attorneys, mothers, community leaders.

Her world is much different than my own world and the world of the generation before me. She sees something, she sees women making progress in those fields and she sets her sights to be among them.

"Mom are you ready?" she just called to me. I agreed to take her to practice this morning.

Yes, Ellen, I'm ready. Let's go.


Friday, December 03, 2004

Belief O'Matic

What a relief. I took the "Belief-O-Matic" quiz at www.beliefnet.com and thank God (no pun intended) I finally KNOW what belief I most "fit into".

Here are the results of my quiz:


.
Bahá'í Faith (100%)
2.
Orthodox Judaism (99%)
3.
Mainline to Liberal Christian Protestants (95%)
4.
Mainline to Conservative Christian/Protestant (94%)
5.
Islam (91%)

That's really helpful. SO glad to have that sorted out. I wonder where Tulsa's "Baha i Faith" meets?

Friday Night Stand Up

My favorite way to "veg" is by watching Comedy Central and its lineup of stand up comedy. Tonight featurs comics from "across the pond" which is a much different type of comedy (usually much cleaner and a bit high brow)...One of my favorites is Sarah Kendall from Australia (not British...but still a bit far away).

What I think is interesting is that comics that perform internationally must use material that connects with all types of audiences, unlimited by borders and culture. That takes a bit more effort and brains.

Colin Mocherie, of "Whose LIne Is it Anyway" says there are three qualities that comics must have:


1 - a sense of being an outsider
2 - the ability to see the humor in everything
3 - soul-devouring bitterness
Dwayne Kennedy (a NY comic) is funny with a lot of religious overtures:
"I know bad stuff happened in the bible. Have you ever really looked? Things start going downhill about page 3."
"I'm atheist with a "B" plan...you don't want to be the only one on your block that finds out at the last minute that God really exist."
My brothers and I grew up listening to Bill Cosby records...we had them all memorized, probably can still quote them from start to finish. This was his "Fat Albert" era and a lot of things about his childhood. If you can laugh at something, you're one step closer to dealing with it.

Thursday, December 02, 2004

No Surpise

Pharmaceutical companies are launching new products that are "like Viagra for women". Since the launch on Tuesday, one OB-GYN claims that his office has been besieged with phone calls saying that "one out of every five calls is asking for the 'script".

He added, "half of the calls are from men getting 'scripts for their wives."

Well, it is the holiday season. Gift packaged with misteltoe, just might do the trick.




Why Church?

Catherine of Siena, (1347-1380), twenty-fourth of twenty five children, reared in a poor but devout Catholic family in an age of class feuds and religious wars. At the age of seven she vowed her virginity to God, at fifteen she cut off her hair in defiance of her parent's efforts to see her married. At eighteen she became a Dominican nun and began to live in solitude and silence going out of her room only for mass.

At 21, she returned to her family and spend her life helping the poor, serving as a nurse in homes and hospitals. Even though her fame spread from poor beggars to powerful popes, she managed to maintain a deep interior life of silence and devotion to God. Catherine was called upon to help settle political disputes and social unrest until her death in 1380. The Catholic church granted her the title, "Doctor of the Church."

In her "The Dialogue" she gives her glimpse of the importance of Church in the spiritual jurney:

"...And the hostelry of holy Church is there to serve the bread of life and blood lest the journeying pilgrims, my creatures, grow weary and faint on the way..."

(From Devotional Classics, Foster/Smith)

Most of my experiences with any type of church have fallen short of this goal. Is it attainable? Is it worth working towards? Perhaps. But only when each of us - me -- start asking the question, "what can I do to bring this reality to bear?" will we be able to make this vision a reality.

That question can stop each of us in our tracks and force the attention to be about what we individually can contribute to creating this for others. Perhaps we spend too much time in designing grand plans to "reach" people, when the people are all around us, we simply must pick up the work and do it, each as we know how, each as we can. No other way really works, I think. It seems so simple and yet we are so bad at it.

Wednesday, December 01, 2004

Sappy Holiday Movie, Great Message

If you can get past the overacting, the predictable antics, the slapstick comedy, "Christmas with the Kranks" can be a holiday highlight.

Yes, the storyline is predictable. Yes, the comedic attempts are at times, overdone. Nonetheless, the ending and the message on building community hits the deep, red center. It has me teary at the end...even me, a confirmed scrooge, churlish and unforgiving in my lack of holiday cheer.

Best Scene: Jamie Lee Curtis in a string bikini ("this should be outlawed"...thanks, Jamie, for something all of us 40-something's can relate to!

Best Actor: Dan Akroyd, as the nazi-leader of merriment. His forced laughter during caroling is almost sinister-ly frightening.

Best Moment: When Tim Allen is quite literally between two realities, made real when he is standing in the street.


Blog use #1

According to Aaron Brown on CNN last night, the #1 word looked up online is the word "blog". What does that mean, really? What does it say about where our culture is headed?

Today, I heard big corporate news at 12 noon and by 2:30, I had sent email/voice broadcast to all those in my organization to all parts of the states. This normally would have taken weeks in previous experiences. That's what the internet revolution means to me...it means much more, too, but it has eased communication and created new problems, too.

Resistance is Futile
This news article at Reuters says 'Blog' Tops U.S. Dictionary's Words of the Year.

Tuesday, November 30, 2004

Overhead today

I was listening in on a conversation between some people on the radio while driving. The focus of the discussion was regarding the nation's homeless and the children that are in poverty.

This stirs great interest in me namely because I grew up extremely poor and always enjoy some educated, private-schooled, never-had-to-worry-where-the-next-meal-was-coming-from guy (or gal) talk about poverty. They obviously have been reading too many fiction novels, because there is nothing -- nothing -- glamorous about poverty.

There seems to be a sparkle in their eye when they refer to children and adults who exist in poverty. They seem to be like an archeologists on a dig, finding a new form of human. What really challenges me is that some of this ilk seem like it is an inalienable right that every person be given an education, be given a computer, be given benefits with their job. We live in an entitlement world that knows little of what it takes to move from poor to not so poor to managing. And rich, educated folks like I heard today don't make it any easier.

I wish that those who fantasize with their saviour-complex would ask some good questions. Like, "why?", for starters. Why? Why do people end up homeless, with no money? I have seen poverty from the inside and I can tell you, some people are as strategic as being poor -- and staying poor --- as those who are planning with their fat retirement accounts. There is a certain adrenaline rush to cutting coupons and downsizing. Like a big game in which they win when they spend less, they push and jolt others around for their sense of entitlement.

I know that there are people -- children -- that are truly innocent in the sense that they are born into poverty...I was one. But being born into a situation does not mean one has to stay there. Is it difficult to change that paradigm? Absolutely. Is it easy? Not on your life. It takes work and focus and dedication and then more work. And it takes the hardest work of all, that in reliance on a power greater than oneself to make changes in thinking and behaviour. Change is hard, it takes work and it takes grit. And it is honorable to allow someone to struggle in that process so that the struggle becomes "theirs" so that when they achieve it, it is their own and not some thin hand me down mentality.

For some, work has become a four-letter word. We believe that things should be handed to us and it should cause us no discomfort, no effort, no real investment of ourselves. The thing is, I really believe that unless something is worked for it doesn't mean squash and won't be worthwhile to anyone, least of all the one who has been "given". I believe that these kinds of gifts are much more for those that are givers, than those that are the benficiaries. It is a kind of salve on our conscious to think that we've done "something" for someone.

Giving someone a hand out is not the answer. Giving someone an opportunity to work -- and sometimes work hard -- is more spiritual and beneficial than an easy ride.

Bullseye

Just finished up November's numbers...had our best month of the year. I'm really pleased and excited how some new ideas in business have propelled our unit forward to higher and higher plateaus. I'm excited to see what the new year will bring. I've had the good fortune of having several wonderful women cross my life and the result is very exciting. Good things continue to happen in this sphere of my life.

I have a friend who teaches at a university and she called me today. I like to call her my "chocolate bunny" friend. She has it all together on the outside, but inside she seems hollow and empty. I've told her that and she agrees, so I'm not speaking out of turn here. She and I have a friendship that reaches way, way back and we both are able to be really honest with each other. She has her criticims of me, too, all of which are true. It's kind of good to have that kind of friend, but it's probably better that we don't see each other everyday.

Then, I have another friend who is in my industry -- also out of town, and she calls me almost daily just to say "hey" and cheer me on. I love it when she calls and I look forward to hearing what she's doing. She is just a person that brings out the best in people and I love her for that. She speaks Spanish fluently and I try to talk to her in Spanish, but she just always laughs at me and says, "I think you need to master English, first." Bloody right.

Sometimes its good to stop and remember the friends I have -- all different and all unique. I have been blessed with some really special people in my life and I'm grateful. I don't appreciate these friends like I should and yet they remain good friends. That's a good thing.

INTJ/DISC...what?

If you spend any time in leadership you will soon be confronted with personality profiles. There are at least 5 or more that dot the leadership landscape---Myers-Brigg, DISC among many others.

I've often been a skeptic of these profiles simply because I don't like to pigeonhole anybody into any certain category nor do I enjoy being "tagged" and labeled.. Yet, recently, I've been reviewing some of the information particularly in Myers-Brigg profile. I have taken it many times and each time it is the same -- INTJ is what I "am".

While it is helpful to understand this what I'm really interested in getting to is what I am "not". In other words, I work with such a variety of people that I often have to adjust my style to better suit theirs. This is far from easy and an exercise that I find challenging. The tempation is to discover one's strength and say, "there ya go...that's what I am and that's that" but the real purpose of such profiles is to better understand where I might improve and become more flexible.

I've been really working on this lately, particularly with some of the styles that I often find challenging. It's kind of like a new math problem, getting my brain around new ways to communicate with people. But it's also very rewarding when I find that I am growing in new ways, too.

I can see how if I had takent his task more seriously in my earlier days of leading that I might have done a much better job at relating and responding to others.

For those of you that don't know, the INTJ's mantra is "things can always be better" and this style tends to drive others crazy because we're always trying to improve something, someone. It has it strengths, but it also has its weaknesses. I'm working on building new flexibility in my style and finding it challenging, but fun.

Monday, November 29, 2004

Still working on 2500 words a day

I've been doing the discipline of writing -- just writing -- 2500 words or more a day. That is no easy order. The first few days went by fine, but then I found myself having to really dig for new ideas..which is exactly what this discipline is trying to accomplish. Then as I started with characters things really began to take off. Great therapy, too. That snippy little waitress at the cafe? I can re-write her to have a limp and a buck tooth. Friend of mine getting on my nerves? I can write him or her to have gout or some other terrible disease. Now I know why writers are probably also control -freaks...great way to control an imaginary world.

I may be upgrading my current laptop in a few months as prices on laptops continue to spiral downward. I find myself writing more and more in the times between appointments and just when I'm out and about.

I'm still trying to make sense of the after thanksgiving rushes. Today I returned to a store that was packed -- with lines out the door -- to return some items that didn't quite work. There was hardly anybody in the store, though most of the merchandise was still heavily discounted. I've about decided that the whole "after thanksging" rush is designed for those that are addicted to the adrenaline rush of having huge crowds of people push you and prod you around a crowded, sweaty store. For my money, I'll pay the extra price for any "deal" I may have missed on some special discounted day.


Still working on 2500 words a day

I've been doing the discipline of writing -- just writing -- 2500 words or more a day. That is no easy order. The first few days went by fine, but then I found myself having to really dig for new ideas..which is exactly what this discipline is trying to accomplish. Then as I started with characters things really began to take off. Great therapy, too. That snippy little waitress at the cafe? I can re-write her to have a limp and a buck tooth. Friend of mine getting on my nerves? I can write him or her to have gout or some other terrible disease. Now I know why writers are probably also control -freaks...great way to control an imaginary world.

I may be upgrading my current laptop in a few months as prices on laptops continue to spiral downward. I find myself writing more and more in the times between appointments and just when I'm out and about.

I'm still trying to make sense of the after thanksgiving rushes. Today I returned to a store that was packed -- with lines out the door -- to return some items that didn't quite work. There was hardly anybody in the store, though most of the merchandise was still heavily discounted. I've about decided that the whole "after thanksging" rush is designed for those that are addicted to the adrenaline rush of having huge crowds of people push you and prod you around a crowded, sweaty store. For my money, I'll pay the extra price for any "deal" I may have missed on some special discounted day.


Still working on 2500 words a day

I've been doing the discipline of writing -- just writing -- 2500 words or more a day. That is no easy order. The first few days went by fine, but then I found myself having to really dig for new ideas..which is exactly what this discipline is trying to accomplish. Then as I started with characters things really began to take off. Great therapy, too. That snippy little waitress at the cafe? I can re-write her to have a limp and a buck tooth. Friend of mine getting on my nerves? I can write him or her to have gout or some other terrible disease. Now I know why writers are probably also control -freaks...great way to control an imaginary world.

I may be upgrading my current laptop in a few months as prices on laptops continue to spiral downward. I find myself writing more and more in the times between appointments and just when I'm out and about.

I'm still trying to make sense of the after thanksgiving rushes. Today I returned to a store that was packed -- with lines out the door -- to return some items that didn't quite work. There was hardly anybody in the store, though most of the merchandise was still heavily discounted. I've about decided that the whole "after thanksging" rush is designed for those that are addicted to the adrenaline rush of having huge crowds of people push you and prod you around a crowded, sweaty store. For my money, I'll pay the extra price for any "deal" I may have missed on some special discounted day.


Sunday, November 28, 2004

Holiday Mayhem

Despite my best intentions, the holiday this week was merry and actually, enjoyable. Yes, I spent half the holiday in bed, wracked with fever and sick, but after sleeping it off, I enjoyed the rest and rejuvenation.

The best part, my kids were amazing. Ellen got the decorations out for the trees and got us all started on the merriment. And, Dan and Nathan got the lights on outside---almost.

I even went to church today, checked my box, smiled and left. Sermon topic -- "community", which almost made me gag. Church is is probably the last place I'd look for anything remotely considered community, unless one defines community as Abugrahb prison. My theory is this -- anytime you have to talk about community, it aint happening.

Still, the house looks beautiful, we even listened to holiday songs...tomorrow, finishing out the month end and working on December numbers.

Highlights from NYT/Sunday

I read the NYT for so much more than news...it is a virtual microcosm of socitial shifts and changes. I read it as much for the ideas as I do for the inspiration. It truly has a "pulse" on the nation. I'll be posting some highlights here later throughout the day...Sunday is my day to lounge around and read..something I've been doing a great deal of lately, actually. I'm a total reading slacker, I guess.

New York Magazine -- features articles on how marketers are squeezing out childhood because of the sophistication of their techniques.."tween strategy" is on every hot marketer's lips. This is due in part to the idea that marketers have realized that this age in children is not only profitable but it is yearning to seperate itself from older consumers (parents) to create their own community and identiy. Hmmm, nothing new, really, but someone is getting very rich on this idea. And is this a good thing or not for our kids? Well, like father like son, is the articles main point...we are a nation consumed with finding our idenity through logos and gadgets.